Congratulations, You’re Engaged! Now What?

He popped the big question; you said yes. Now what?

A new engagement is a special time in a couple’s life, and it also marks the beginning ofwhat to do now that you're engaged what can be a whirlwind of wedding planning.

Even though most brides are eager to jump right in and start shopping for a dress, a venue, and calling the florist, there are a few other practical things for you to do after you become engaged and before getting into the throes of wedding planning.

  • Share your news. Now with social media, it’s so easy to type a quick message and announce to everyone at once that you are engaged. But before hitting that send button, be sure to call your parents and other close relatives and friends before announcing it via email, Twitter, and/or Facebook. No one wants to be the last to know your big news, so personally call the special people in your life to share your news.
  • Get your ring sized. Even if your fiancé picked out the perfect ring, chances are it doesn’t fit perfectly. Take it to a jeweler ASAP to have it properly sized for your finger. The process may take just a few hours or a few days.
  • Get your ring insured. If the worst happens and your ring gets lost or damaged, you can at least get your money back to purchase a new one with insurance. If you already have home owner’s or renter’s insurance, call your agent to add the ring to your policy. You will probably need an appraisal before you can add the ring to an existing policy, so make sure you know what paperwork is required, and get this from the jeweler that sold your fiancé the ring.
  • Set a date. Even if it’s not the exact date you want to hold your wedding, at least sit down together and look at your calendars to determine a time frame of when you’d like to have your wedding. For example, you might prefer a summer wedding but got engaged in May, so you could target the following summer—or if you got engaged over the holidays, you might decide to have a fall wedding. This way, when people ask, “When is the wedding?” you can at least give them a time frame if not a definite date yet.
  • Get a wedding planner. No, it’s not time to hire an actual wedding coordinator just yet (if that is what you choose), but at least get a Smartphone app, a datebook, or calendar to help you keep a timeline of major wedding-related tasks.
  • Ask your parents for their guest lists. The number of guests will determine what kind of wedding you have and where, so go ahead and ask your parents and your fiancé’s parents to give you their guest lists. At this point, it can just be names of the “must invite” people, then add your own friends and co-workers so you can get a ballpark figure of the number of guests.
  • Enjoy the moment. Getting engaged is a huge milestone in your relationship, so be sure that you and your fiancé spend some quality time together just enjoying the moment before you delve into the craziness of wedding planning. Once wedding planning and parties get underway, there won’t be as many opportunities for time just for the two of you, so spend some special time together now.

Congratulations!

So You’re Engaged…

Now what? While we hope that the first thing you do is call your closest girlfriends and squeal giddily over every last detail of your fairytale proposal, we want to make sure that you don’t get so caught up in “Say ‘Yes’ to the Dress” marathons that you forget to actually What to do once you're engagedgo dress shopping yourself. Here’s our top three (trust us, there’s plenty more) things to do when you’re newly engaged:

1. Set a budget; set a date.  You’ll be surprised how accomplished you’ll feel just by committing to your wedding date and budget.

2. Go dress shopping. If you’re not considering a long engagement, we might even bump this up to #1. Not only does it take some time to find the perfect gown, it also takes some time to have it altered. For more on the ins-and-outs of alterations, see our post here.

3. Find your wedding planner. Not only do planners help bring your vision of your big day to life, they also, in some cases, double as a wedding coordinator—both of which you’ll want when push comes to shove. Do you really want your family to be responsible for cleaning up after your reception?