What Are the Traditional Duties for the Mother of the Bride?

Nothing is as special as seeing your daughter walk down the aisle on her wedding day. As the mother of the bride, there are certain duties you are traditionally responsible for What are the traditional duties for the mother of the bride?
handling to ensure that your daughter has a special day.

Here is a list of some of the traditional duties that the mother of the bride is responsible for:

  1. Wedding dress shopping support. Traditionally, mothers accompany their daughters on their hunt for the perfect wedding gown. This can be a special and memorable time for mother and daughter, and mom can help provide honest feedback as her daughter tries on different dresses.
  2. Help with the guest list. The mother of the bride should compile and submit names and addresses of family and friends that need to be included on the master guest list. She should also talk to the groom’s family about whom they want to include on the guest list and manage the difficult task of limiting the number of guests if necessary.
  3. Researching traditions or finding family heirlooms. Typically, it falls on the mother of the bride to make sure that certain religious or cultural traditions their family follows are incorporated into the wedding. Mom also will help the bride find her “something old” or “something borrowed” for the big day—for example, mom might share a piece of jewelry she wore on her wedding day.
  4. Be the hostess. From the minute guests begin arriving in town until the end of the reception, the mother of the bride is the official hostess and in charge of making every guest feel welcome. She should make sure she meets and greets every guest throughout the event.
  5. Coordinating outfit choices with the groom’s mother. Etiquette dictates that the mother of the bride follows her daughter’s lead as to the color and formality of the dress she chooses for the wedding. Once she has chosen a dress, she needs to call the groom’s mother to describe the dress, or she could email a photo so that the groom’s mother can then select her dress so it will be in sync.
  6. Wedding day dressing assistance. Helping the bride into her dress and placing her veil is one of the most time-honored traditions a mother of a bride can follow. (And it makes for memorable photos!)
  7. Second dance. After the bride and groom have their first dance, then it’s time for mom and dad to take to the dance floor. 

These are just a few of the traditional duties a mother of the bride expects to do, but many moms may want to take a more active role in wedding planning with their daughters. Or some mothers may prefer to take more of a back seat. No matter which category you fall into, be sure to stop and savor this special time with your daughter.

Mother-of-the-Bride Trends for 2016

While her wedding day may be one of the most important days in a bride’s life, it is also a very special time for her mother. And as mother of the bride, moms want a dress that will

Dress by Marisa Baratelli

make them look and feel just as special as their daughters.

Gone are the days of boring, understated dresses or suits for the mother of the bride (MOB); today’s trends include dresses with exquisite details, sophisticated silhouettes, and figure-flattering styles. Here are some of the MOB trends that are hot this season:

Lace

Lace isn’t just for the bride anymore. New styles for the MOB include dresses with lace overlays that add a touch of romance but still look sophisticated. And lace doesn’t have to be just white or cream—lace in vibrant colors like royal blue or fuchsia make the patterns of the dress really stand out.

Pastels

Spring into style with pastels! The newest color trends on the bridal runways were shades of pale pinks, mint greens, seafoam blues and pale yellows. Pastels are a beautiful alternative to basic black, especially for a spring wedding.

Neutrals

Neutral shades of champagne, beige, or taupe look elegant and up-to-date and come in various styles and lengths. If you do choose to go with a neutral shade, be sure to try on the dress before buying to see if the shade complements your skin tone. It may take a few tries in different hues to find the right shade for your coloring.

Bateau Necklines

Bateau necklines or “boatneck” style can be very flattering, balancing out the figure. The cut elongates the neck and shows off an elegant collarbone.

Cap Sleeves

If mom doesn’t want to bare all with a sleeveless dress, cap sleeves offer the best of both worlds. They offer some coverage but are a nice alternative to long sleeves, especially for a summer wedding. Cap sleeves on a dress create a look that is elegant and classy.

Sheer Sleeves

Yet another alternative for the MOB who doesn’t want to bare her arms and shoulders is this new trend—dresses with long, sheer sleeves. Sheer sleeves create the illusion of bare arms while still letting the MOB feel covered. These are a great choice for fall or winter weddings.

A-line Skirts

For MOBs that want a shorter, flouncy look, A-line styles are extremely figure-flattering. A fuller skirt hides a multitude of figure flaws and is especially flattering for pear-shaped figures.

 

 

It’s a Nice Day for a [Winter] White Wedding

We’re still sweating in North Carolina, but planning for this year’s winter weddings is already well under way. What can we expect to see the winter of 2015-2016? Read on to learn about this year’s trends.How to plan for your winter wedding in the summer

  1. Brides can show a little skin. On the runways this season, dresses featured plunging necklines, bare backs, and cutouts. It should go without saying that in a wedding, a little skin can go a long way, so if you dare to go bare, less is more. For instance, choose a deep neckline or a bare back, but never both. After all, you’re pledging you love to your betrothed, not going out to a club!
  2. Or, brides can cover up. Many designers showcased outerwear for winter weddings, with motorcycle jackets, dusters, swing coats, capes and sweaters all making appearances. The fabrics are lush: wool, suede, mohair, and fur (real or faux, white or brown). For a more traditional winter wedding look, try long sleeves; their demureness pairs well with a bare back, as described above.
  3. Try going metallic. Shine up the place with traditional silver and gold, or opt for surprising metallic blues, pinks, and champagnes. Metallics showed up on the runway as blingy accents as well as muted gown colors.
  4. Brighten up with some color. A monochromatic white motif can lack sparkle, so adding a dash of color can brighten up the whole event. Color can appear in a sash, a bouquet, or accessories. Keep things cool in blue, or warm things up with colors like red or yellow.
  5. Go Boho. Bohemian chic is still in style, and it can inform the tenor of the whole wedding. For dresses, look for floral embellishments, vintage styling, and a loosely-put-together feel. Flowers and accessories can follow suit, with a hand-made look that feels warm and welcoming to guests.

Tips for Planning a Winter Wedding

For some brides, winter can be the perfect season to hold a wedding. Especially atplanning a winter weddinglocations where there’s a chance of a snowy white background, winter weddings can be quite magical.

One big benefit to holding a winter wedding is more availability at the location of your choice, and venues, caterers, florists, etc., are often less expensive for wintertime weddings. So winter weddings can not only be romantic and magical, but also budget-friendly!

Here are some tips to consider when planning a winter wedding:

The dress

Sleeves on wedding dresses are a big trend, thanks to Princess Kate, and perfectly suited to a winter wedding. Fabrics that are thicker such as satin are great this time of year—or a sheer, flowy dress can also work well, adding an ethereal feel. One key accessory to add to your winter bridal look is some sort of top layer, such as a chic white faux-fur stole or a velvet cape to keep warm when outdoors. You may also want to consider winter shawls or wraps for your bridesmaids.

The location

For a smaller wedding, an inn with a large fireplace can be a perfect spot for a winter wedding. For larger affairs, consider a historic mansion or private club that will still have intimate warmth.  Be sure to ask what seasonal decorations the site will already have – you may be able to save money as many sites are already heavily decorated. One tip to keep in mind: offer a coat check so guests don’t have to worry about their bulky or even wet coats during the reception—in addition, this will keep coats draped over chairs out of your wedding photos!

The décor                                                                             

Candlelight is a must for a winter wedding. Add warmth and light with different lanterns, votives, and candles in different shapes and sizes. Popular winter colors to incorporate include frosted—light blue hues and whites, metallics such as antique gold, pewter, silver, or copper, or deep jewel tunes such as burgundy or plum. White linens with all-white floral arrangements add to a snowy winter theme, or chose a velvet runner in one of the colors mentioned above. White string lights hung from the ceiling and ice sculptures can also create a winter feel.

The menu

You can still offer your favorite foods, but consider adding some winter touches like a squash dish or a warm pumpkin soup. Eggnog, spiced wine, cider, or hot chocolate are other special touches you can offer your guests that add to the warmth of the event. For your wedding cake, opt for an all-white cake decorated with snowflakes, silver embellishments, or other white sugar touches. A small snow globe can make a lovely cake topper.

Summer weddings may get all the attention, but winter weddings can offer a unique and romantic way to celebrate the joining of two people in matrimony.

 

Congratulations, You’re Engaged! Now What?

He popped the big question; you said yes. Now what?

A new engagement is a special time in a couple’s life, and it also marks the beginning ofwhat to do now that you're engaged what can be a whirlwind of wedding planning.

Even though most brides are eager to jump right in and start shopping for a dress, a venue, and calling the florist, there are a few other practical things for you to do after you become engaged and before getting into the throes of wedding planning.

  • Share your news. Now with social media, it’s so easy to type a quick message and announce to everyone at once that you are engaged. But before hitting that send button, be sure to call your parents and other close relatives and friends before announcing it via email, Twitter, and/or Facebook. No one wants to be the last to know your big news, so personally call the special people in your life to share your news.
  • Get your ring sized. Even if your fiancé picked out the perfect ring, chances are it doesn’t fit perfectly. Take it to a jeweler ASAP to have it properly sized for your finger. The process may take just a few hours or a few days.
  • Get your ring insured. If the worst happens and your ring gets lost or damaged, you can at least get your money back to purchase a new one with insurance. If you already have home owner’s or renter’s insurance, call your agent to add the ring to your policy. You will probably need an appraisal before you can add the ring to an existing policy, so make sure you know what paperwork is required, and get this from the jeweler that sold your fiancé the ring.
  • Set a date. Even if it’s not the exact date you want to hold your wedding, at least sit down together and look at your calendars to determine a time frame of when you’d like to have your wedding. For example, you might prefer a summer wedding but got engaged in May, so you could target the following summer—or if you got engaged over the holidays, you might decide to have a fall wedding. This way, when people ask, “When is the wedding?” you can at least give them a time frame if not a definite date yet.
  • Get a wedding planner. No, it’s not time to hire an actual wedding coordinator just yet (if that is what you choose), but at least get a Smartphone app, a datebook, or calendar to help you keep a timeline of major wedding-related tasks.
  • Ask your parents for their guest lists. The number of guests will determine what kind of wedding you have and where, so go ahead and ask your parents and your fiancé’s parents to give you their guest lists. At this point, it can just be names of the “must invite” people, then add your own friends and co-workers so you can get a ballpark figure of the number of guests.
  • Enjoy the moment. Getting engaged is a huge milestone in your relationship, so be sure that you and your fiancé spend some quality time together just enjoying the moment before you delve into the craziness of wedding planning. Once wedding planning and parties get underway, there won’t be as many opportunities for time just for the two of you, so spend some special time together now.

Congratulations!

Mother of the Groom Duties

What does the mother of the groom do?

Traditionally, mothers of brides shoulder most of the wedding-planning responsibilities. But these days, the bride and groom’s families are taking on more of a shared role in both paying and planning. This makes it a bit harder to know exactly where your place is, but despite the shift in responsibilities, there are still a few that will never go out of style for the mother of the groom. These include, but aren’t limited to:

  • Planning and hosting the rehearsal dinner with the groom’s dad.
  • Dancing with the groom for the mother/son dance at the reception.
  • Consulting with the bride’s mom on your ensemble to ensure you’re not wearing something similar.
  • Attending the bridal shower and buying a gift for the bride and groom.
  • Crafting a guest list for the reception after the couple shares how many people you’ll be able to invite.

In addition to these traditional responsibilities, mothers of grooms may be asked to become a little more involved in the planning process. A few things you may be asked to do, or you could offer to do if you’d like to be more involved, are the following:

  • Offer to serve as the main contact for wedding vendors. This is especially important if the bride doesn’t have a wedding planner or day-of coordinator, and is a great way to make an impactful contribution to the wedding day, allowing both the bride and her mother to be blissfully unaware of all the questions and concerns and fully enjoy the day.
  • Offer to help scout ceremony and reception sites based on what the bride is looking for aesthetically. Compiling a list that includes the best of the best will really help the bride narrow down all her choices. Just be wary not to overstep; it’s a definite possibility that the bride may not love the same venue you do, and though you put in a lot of ground work, it’s ultimately her decision.
  • Offer to host a dinner to introduce the bride’s family to yours. This is a great way to get to know each other before the big day, and will make working together closely on a lot of these big decisions much easier in the long run.

 

April Showers… Unexpected Wedding Changes

Though they say that it’s good luck, no bride wants to see rain on her wedding day. We can’t help you turn rain into shine, but we can offer you some tips for making an air-tight rain plan, and for weathering a wedding-day storm.

If you’re getting married in a church or indoors, a rain plan may still be necessary to get you from the room you’re waiting in to the ceremony site; however, it will be much less involved, and it’s something your day-of coordinator can easily accomplish last minute, if necessary. However, if your plans are to get married outdoors, a rain plan is essential. Three things that will help both logistically and emotionally:

Have a covered option.

Plenty of brides get married outside, but it’s important to have a covered option should the skies open up on your big day. When you’re choosing a venue, ask if they have a space for you to move the ceremony if it should rain. Depending on the size of your wedding, a room, an outdoor pavilion, or a gazebo could all be viable alternates.

Get your mind ready.

Possibly the hardest part of making a rain plan is wrapping your mind around the reality that your ceremony may not look just as you’ve planned and envisioned for months. One thing that will help you cope is committing to your decision, both verbally and emotionally. Once you’ve agreed to the rain plan, let go of everything that won’t be, and focus on the fact that you’re still getting married to the love of your life—whether that’s outdoors or inside.

Write it down.

It will be stressful enough to let go of the way you’ve dreamed your ceremony would be, but add in the confusion of last-minute communication with your vendors and you have a recipe for disaster. Once you’ve made a rain plan, write down alternate directions for all your vendors. That way, if you have to make a game-time decision, your vendors need only to hear what you’ve decided, and then they have their marching orders.

Working With a Wedding Planner

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Planning a wedding involves many moving parts. Not only are there decisions to make about the reception, there are also many to make about the ceremony: Who would’ve thought that someone actually needs to plan who will walk down the aisle, in what order, or to advise your bridesmaids on the proper way to hold a bouquet? While you can tackle some of these to-dos yourself, there are many that would be made easier with the help of a wedding planner. 

One of the best things about hiring a planner/coordinator is that this is their area of expertise. They know the ins and outs of the industry better than anyone else and are able to offer you insight and perspective that you would otherwise not have access to. From setting a timeline for the overall day, to handling the minutia of paperwork and correspondence with vendors, to helping you weigh the pros and cons of a particularly tough decision, a planner keeps you together, both emotionally and logistically.

Wedding planners and designers are also great advisors. They’ll be able to recommend the best vendors—overall or for your price range—and sometimes can even get you deals on vendors. They’re also excellent at advising you on your budget; big or small, they’ll show you how much to spend where and make sure that you don’t overspend in an area that isn’t the most important to you (i.e., if you don’t love flowers then they shouldn’t make up a large percentage of your budget). If there’s a question of etiquette, look no further than your planner for the perfect advice.

All these pluses aside, planners and coordinators are also buffers, resolving conflicts with vendors or family in your name and with ease. They’re also often your personal buffer on the wedding day, working as the point of contact for crises so you’re spared the nitty-gritty details. The extra price of a planner is a small one to pay for a perfectly-planned (and executed) wedding day.

 

 

How to Repurpose those Gowns for Halloween!

Got a closet full of old formal gowns? Here’s how to recycle those dresses into easy and awesome Halloween Costumes.  Find your color; find your costume.

Black

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Morticia (Addams Family) Throw on that long, black evening gown, get out your flat iron and heavily line your eyes. Add in a mustached man constantly kissing your arm for good measure.

Ursula (The Little Mermaid) Get evil like Ursula with a flowing black gown, bright red lips, teal and purple make-up, a gold pendant necklace, and a white pixie-cut wig.

Green

Medusa

Become this mythical Greek goddess with a green dress of any length, gold and green eye shadow, and crazy curls with a few toy snakes twisted in. Hisssss…

Tinkerbell (Peter Pan)

If you’ve got a short green dress, all you need is a wand, wings, and a pouch full of fairy dust to become this Neverland cutie.

Blue

Alice in Wonderland

Top a tea-length, blue dress with a white apron and add a black ribbon to your hair to get this blonde’s look. White stockings and black Mary Janes complete the costume. Top it off with a friend pointing at you and screaming, “Off with her head!” throughout the night.

Cinderella

A blue ball gown, black choker necklace,

and elbow-length white gloves will transform you into this well-loved princess. Don’t forget the clear heels or Prince Charming may not recognize you! Remember, you only have until midnight…

Red

Jessica Rabbit (Who Framed Roger Rabbit)

BettyBoop Photo: www.bettyboop.com

No need for a nurse costume here. With fiery, auburn locks and a skin-tight red evening gown, you’ll have the sexiest costume in the room, no doubt. Purple gloves and a cigarette holder finish the irresistible look.

Betty Boop

A black curly wig and a short red cocktail dress are necessary to become this cartooned gal. Throw on some big gold hoop earrings and blow lots of kisses to all the fellas. Boop-Oop-A-Doop!

Yellow

Belle (Beauty and the Beast)

Tell the tale as old as time in a yellow ball gown and elbow-length gloves. Swirl half of your hair into a high bun and let the rest fall to your shoulders. Carry a book, and be sure to waltz with someone in a wolf costume before the night is over.

Chiquita Banana Lady

Wear a yellow dress of any length, and strap a basket full of fruit to the top of your head and waa-laa! (voila) Red lips and a bit of salsa dancing top off this fruity look.

White

Marilyn Monroe

Curly blond locks, red lips, and her signature beauty mark is all your white tea-length dress needs to turn into this bombshell. Talk in a high, breathy voice and stand near a fan every now and then to strike her famous pose.

Wilma (The Flinstones)

Get prehistoric with a high, red bun, chunky white necklace, and a white cocktail dress. Shoes are discouraged for this costume, but animal print accessories fit right in!