What Are the Traditional Duties for the Mother of the Bride?

Nothing is as special as seeing your daughter walk down the aisle on her wedding day. As the mother of the bride, there are certain duties you are traditionally responsible for What are the traditional duties for the mother of the bride?
handling to ensure that your daughter has a special day.

Here is a list of some of the traditional duties that the mother of the bride is responsible for:

  1. Wedding dress shopping support. Traditionally, mothers accompany their daughters on their hunt for the perfect wedding gown. This can be a special and memorable time for mother and daughter, and mom can help provide honest feedback as her daughter tries on different dresses.
  2. Help with the guest list. The mother of the bride should compile and submit names and addresses of family and friends that need to be included on the master guest list. She should also talk to the groom’s family about whom they want to include on the guest list and manage the difficult task of limiting the number of guests if necessary.
  3. Researching traditions or finding family heirlooms. Typically, it falls on the mother of the bride to make sure that certain religious or cultural traditions their family follows are incorporated into the wedding. Mom also will help the bride find her “something old” or “something borrowed” for the big day—for example, mom might share a piece of jewelry she wore on her wedding day.
  4. Be the hostess. From the minute guests begin arriving in town until the end of the reception, the mother of the bride is the official hostess and in charge of making every guest feel welcome. She should make sure she meets and greets every guest throughout the event.
  5. Coordinating outfit choices with the groom’s mother. Etiquette dictates that the mother of the bride follows her daughter’s lead as to the color and formality of the dress she chooses for the wedding. Once she has chosen a dress, she needs to call the groom’s mother to describe the dress, or she could email a photo so that the groom’s mother can then select her dress so it will be in sync.
  6. Wedding day dressing assistance. Helping the bride into her dress and placing her veil is one of the most time-honored traditions a mother of a bride can follow. (And it makes for memorable photos!)
  7. Second dance. After the bride and groom have their first dance, then it’s time for mom and dad to take to the dance floor. 

These are just a few of the traditional duties a mother of the bride expects to do, but many moms may want to take a more active role in wedding planning with their daughters. Or some mothers may prefer to take more of a back seat. No matter which category you fall into, be sure to stop and savor this special time with your daughter.

Mother-of-the-Bride Trends for 2016

While her wedding day may be one of the most important days in a bride’s life, it is also a very special time for her mother. And as mother of the bride, moms want a dress that will

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make them look and feel just as special as their daughters.

Gone are the days of boring, understated dresses or suits for the mother of the bride (MOB); today’s trends include dresses with exquisite details, sophisticated silhouettes, and figure-flattering styles. Here are some of the MOB trends that are hot this season:

Lace

Lace isn’t just for the bride anymore. New styles for the MOB include dresses with lace overlays that add a touch of romance but still look sophisticated. And lace doesn’t have to be just white or cream—lace in vibrant colors like royal blue or fuchsia make the patterns of the dress really stand out.

Pastels

Spring into style with pastels! The newest color trends on the bridal runways were shades of pale pinks, mint greens, seafoam blues and pale yellows. Pastels are a beautiful alternative to basic black, especially for a spring wedding.

Neutrals

Neutral shades of champagne, beige, or taupe look elegant and up-to-date and come in various styles and lengths. If you do choose to go with a neutral shade, be sure to try on the dress before buying to see if the shade complements your skin tone. It may take a few tries in different hues to find the right shade for your coloring.

Bateau Necklines

Bateau necklines or “boatneck” style can be very flattering, balancing out the figure. The cut elongates the neck and shows off an elegant collarbone.

Cap Sleeves

If mom doesn’t want to bare all with a sleeveless dress, cap sleeves offer the best of both worlds. They offer some coverage but are a nice alternative to long sleeves, especially for a summer wedding. Cap sleeves on a dress create a look that is elegant and classy.

Sheer Sleeves

Yet another alternative for the MOB who doesn’t want to bare her arms and shoulders is this new trend—dresses with long, sheer sleeves. Sheer sleeves create the illusion of bare arms while still letting the MOB feel covered. These are a great choice for fall or winter weddings.

A-line Skirts

For MOBs that want a shorter, flouncy look, A-line styles are extremely figure-flattering. A fuller skirt hides a multitude of figure flaws and is especially flattering for pear-shaped figures.

 

 

Five Ideas for the Modern Mother of the Bride

The mother of the bride no longer means frumpy dresses or modest suits. Today’s modern moms want to look up-to-date and elegant, and many retailers and high-fashion designers are now catering to the mother of the bride.

Here are five ideas for mothers of the bride to keep in mind when selecting their outfits for their daughter’s big day:

Consider the location and style of wedding

Is the bride getting married in a traditional church, a hotel, or outdoors? Will it be a formal or more casual affair? Also, think about the time of year—will it be hot or cold? A knee-length, sleeveless dress with a little jacket for a church wedding is appropriate, while it would be fine to wear sleeveless for an outdoor wedding in the spring or summer or a full-length gown for a more formal event.

Consider your color scheme

Avoid the obvious white or ivory, which is reserved for the bride. Choose a color that complements the wedding theme and wedding party attire but without matching the bridesmaids. You may also want to check to see what the mother of the groom will be wearing to avoid any clashes or worse, showing up in the same dress! Mother of the Bride Wedding Fashion

Focus on fit

Whatever style and color you choose, fit and comfort are the most important. You don’t want to feel uncomfortable in a shorter dress that rides up or in something that veers too far from your usual style. If you don’t normally wear sky-high heels, avoid them at all costs!

Look for length

Be sure to take the length of the dress into consideration.The style that flatters most figures sits mid-calf, unless you are petite, then a knee-length dress would be a good alternative.

Have fun with accessories

Think about jewelry, shoes, and handbags—all things that can help make your outfit unique. Use these as statement pieces. Add a pop of color with an accessory, especially if you choose a neutral or black dress.

Mark your calendars for two upcoming trunk shows in September at both Nitsa’s locations featuring Marisa Baratelli for mother of the bride and mother of the groom. Join us at our Charlotte location on Sept. 18-22 or at our Winston-Salem location on Sept. 24-27 to see the latest styles in Marisa Baratelli’s trademark luxurious Thai silk.

Marisa Baratelli Trunk Show for Mothers of the Event!

Trunk Show Featuring Mother-of-the-Bride and Mother-of-the-Groom Designs by Marisa Baratelli

Mark your calendars for two upcoming trunk shows in September at both Nitsa’s locations featuring Marisa Baratelli for mother of the bride and mother of the groom. Join us at our Charlotte location on Sept. 18-22 or at our Winston-Salem location on Sept. 24-27 to see the latest styles in Marisa Baratelli’s trademark luxurious Thai silk.

For a quarter century, Madeleine Cranfill, CEO and founder of Marisa Baratelli, has paid tribute to the ancient artisanal craft of Thai silk weaving by maintaining the purity of the traditional village methods in the design of timeless women’s fashion.

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Cranfill felt called upon to uphold the traditions of Thai silk production when she first visited the country three decades ago. She was inspired by the time and dedication each piece of silk required. With her intuitive sense of style combined with a talent for working with color, Cranfill designed her first line of evening separates for a private clientele in Southern California. In just a few years, Marisa Baratelli became one of the top Thai silk fashion companies globally, expanding with a successful line of custom-order blouses and jackets offered in a full range of colors, prints, and plaids, giving the customer a hand at their own color creative impulse and needs. Within each of the 50 collections, you will find luminescent colors that demand attention, create elegant drama, and define glamour.

Marisa Baratelli’s fall 2014 line features special occasion dresses, gowns, and separates in deep jewel tones, classic black, and vibrant prints. Several pieces feature their new hand-embroidered prism effect that adds a unique beauty and interest to each piece.

Don’t let your special occasion creep up on you; visit one of Nitsa’s Marisa Baratelli fall 2014 trunk shows for the perfect match!

 

Mother of the Bride Duties

In traditional times mothers knew just what was expected of them when their little girls became engaged, and they helped their pride and joys plan and execute all facets of their

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dream day. But for modern MOBs, the lines are sometimes a bit blurred. Sure, new-age brides-to-be are a little more modern in their sensibilities and their expectations, but there are still a few tasks that will never go out of style for mothers of brides.

Advisor

An average wedding today costs over $25,000 to plan and execute. With this increase in size and style comes an increased need for a wedding planner and designer to make sure the wedding is as smoothly run as it is lovely. While planners take on some of that advisory (and paper-pushing) role that moms used to fill, one thing is for sure: You know your daughter better than anyone, and she’ll still need you to help her make decisions on what would best suit her on her wedding day. You’ll still be part of the process but with all the fun and without all the heavy lifting.

Stylist

While you may or may not be asked to go dress shopping with your daughter—though you typically would have been part of the dress-finding process—you’ll likely still be asked to help your daughter get dressed on her wedding day. From stepping into her gown, to fastening it, to applying and tying a sash, assisting your daughter as she dresses is a timeless moment and one that continues to be a duty—and an honor—fit only for mothers.

Hostess      

Traditionally MOBs are considered the official hostesses of the wedding day, and act as The Great Unifiers between guests and both families, warmly greeting and meeting and making everyone feel comfortable and welcome. These days this role is still filled by the Mother of the Bride. Whether your daughter decides on a ceremony of 30 or 300, this is still an important part of your daughter’s day and a task that only the mother of the bride can perform so perfectly.

 

 

What to Wear: Mother of the Bride (or Groom)

With all the focus on the bride’s dress, mom’s attire is often left on the back burner. However, make no mistake: The mother of the bride (and mother of the groom) have their dressing the mother of the eventown guidelines and etiquette to follow when picking the perfect dress. Here’s a break down of some dos and don’ts for MOBs and MOGs.

Don’t procrastinate. Finding a great dress can take quite a bit of time, and you don’t want this to be a last minute decision. It is customary for the mother of the bride to find a dress first, and then let the mother of the groom know what she’s picked so as to avoid a fashion faux pas, like matching or clashing. Though this tradition is less common today, it is still respectful and considerate for the moms to communicate about their attire.

In addition, the moms need to communicate with the bride. Before making any decisions, ask her if she has any attire requests. While the bride’s opinion should count toward what you choose, also make sure you are comfortable and happy with the choice.

As for the style of the dress, follow suit with the formality of the wedding. If the wedding takes place at night or the bridesmaids’ dresses are formal, the mothers’ dresses should be formal as well. A long dress with a matching jacket is a popular formal style. If the wedding is more casual, takes place outside, or the bride simply tells you it’s fine, a more casual dress or a pantsuit would be appropriate. It is generally a no-no for mom to wear a low-cut, short, or strapless dress. A wedding is not the place for a sexy mama; you want to be sure all eyes are kept on the bride!

When it comes to color, the bride may have a strong opinion. Many brides like the mothers to coordinate with the wedding colors, while others are strict about them not looking like the wedding party. Check with your bride on this. In most cases, bold, bright colors are to be avoided. Much like a revealing dress would catch guests’ eyes, so would a bright red gown. In addition to bright colors, white, black, and ivory are often on the “don’t” list.  To be on the safe side, choose a dress in a toned-down color like purple, blue, gold, burgundy, or silver hues.

Though these are common dos and don’ts, all weddings and brides are different. Use these tips as guidelines, but be sure to put the bride’s opinion first.

 

Marisa Baratelli Trunk Show

Mothers of the Event, finally, there’s a trunk show just for you. February 6th through February 9th, our Charlotte store is hosting the fabulous Marisa Baratelli line. Fittings are by appointment, so call today to make your reservation.

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We have a whole list of dressing tips for mothers of brides and grooms here, but the long and the short of dressing for a spectacular social occasion is this: Find your shade and find your fit. Both have the ability to complement, or counteract, your color and body type.

Marisa Baratelli is an American-born designer who prides herself on crafting impeccable social occasion separates from hand-woven, Thai silk. Designed to make you look and feel beautiful from the inside out, we highly doubt you’ll have trouble finding the perfect ensemble at this event.

Nitsa’s in Charlotte:

Phillips Place
6700 Fairview Road
Suite 113 • Phillips Place
Charlotte, NC 28210
704.940.1999
Mon – Sat 10:00am – 6:00pm
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Dressing: Mother of the Bride

Now that your daughter (or soon-to-be daugher-in-law) has her dress and alterations well in hand, you can get down to the business of what you’re wearing on wedding day. Our mother of the bride wedding dressescollection of elegant sophisticated evening dresses and gowns are tailor-made for this occasion. While we have everything you need at Nitsa’s to dress the perfect part, there are a few things that will help you best match your dress to the day.

  • Talk to your daughter to get a sense of the event and the type of attire you’ll need as the M.O.B. You want her to be comfortable with what you’re wearing, but you also need to be at ease. It’s a big day for you, too.
  • Talk to the Mother of the Groom to inform her of your ensemble’s color and formality. While it’s not necessary you dress the same—and probably best that you don’t— keeping length or sleeve style consistent is a good rule of thumb.
  • Find your shade. The best dresses for mothers and mothers-in-law complement their coloring, but don’t clash with the chosen wedding colors. Obviously creams and ivories are off-limits (you don’t want to compete with the bride), but don’t feel as if you need to choose the same hue as the bridesmaids, either.
  •  Ask us. We have a wealth of knowledge when it comes to dressing clients for special events—after all, we’ve been doing it for 40 years. Tell us all you know, and we’ll happily help you select the perfect dress, one that complements you and the wedding, too, whether that’s short to floor length, cap sleeve to strapless.