What Are the Traditional Duties for the Mother of the Bride?

Nothing is as special as seeing your daughter walk down the aisle on her wedding day. As the mother of the bride, there are certain duties you are traditionally responsible for What are the traditional duties for the mother of the bride?
handling to ensure that your daughter has a special day.

Here is a list of some of the traditional duties that the mother of the bride is responsible for:

  1. Wedding dress shopping support. Traditionally, mothers accompany their daughters on their hunt for the perfect wedding gown. This can be a special and memorable time for mother and daughter, and mom can help provide honest feedback as her daughter tries on different dresses.
  2. Help with the guest list. The mother of the bride should compile and submit names and addresses of family and friends that need to be included on the master guest list. She should also talk to the groom’s family about whom they want to include on the guest list and manage the difficult task of limiting the number of guests if necessary.
  3. Researching traditions or finding family heirlooms. Typically, it falls on the mother of the bride to make sure that certain religious or cultural traditions their family follows are incorporated into the wedding. Mom also will help the bride find her “something old” or “something borrowed” for the big day—for example, mom might share a piece of jewelry she wore on her wedding day.
  4. Be the hostess. From the minute guests begin arriving in town until the end of the reception, the mother of the bride is the official hostess and in charge of making every guest feel welcome. She should make sure she meets and greets every guest throughout the event.
  5. Coordinating outfit choices with the groom’s mother. Etiquette dictates that the mother of the bride follows her daughter’s lead as to the color and formality of the dress she chooses for the wedding. Once she has chosen a dress, she needs to call the groom’s mother to describe the dress, or she could email a photo so that the groom’s mother can then select her dress so it will be in sync.
  6. Wedding day dressing assistance. Helping the bride into her dress and placing her veil is one of the most time-honored traditions a mother of a bride can follow. (And it makes for memorable photos!)
  7. Second dance. After the bride and groom have their first dance, then it’s time for mom and dad to take to the dance floor. 

These are just a few of the traditional duties a mother of the bride expects to do, but many moms may want to take a more active role in wedding planning with their daughters. Or some mothers may prefer to take more of a back seat. No matter which category you fall into, be sure to stop and savor this special time with your daughter.

A Very Merry Wedding!

The holiday season is a time to celebrate; why not make it extra-special and celebrate your wedding? If you’re planning a wedding for this December, here are some ways to How to host a winter or holiday weddingmake it shine.

Holiday Idea #1: Let There Be Light

For thousands of years, the short days and long, dark nights of December have prompted people to light candles to keep the dark at bay. Still today, we put lights on our Christmas trees, light candles for Chanukah and Kwanzaa, and light a Yule log in the fireplace. Why not honor this ancient solstice tradition and decorate with a candle motif for your holiday wedding? Candles create a soft, yet dramatic effect, and everyone looks lovely by candlelight. 

Holiday Idea #2: Jewel-toned Dresses and Accents

Nitsa’s loves jewel-toned dresses for winter weddings, and we’ve got you covered this season with beautiful looks from Monique Lhuillier, Marisa Baratelli, Badgley Mischka, and more. Choose from sapphire, emerald, amethyst, and ruby dresses; choose one color, or mix them for a jewelry-box full of beautiful gems. 

Holiday Idea #3: Sparkle and Shine

The holidays are everyone’s favorite time to glitz it up. Go for a Snow Queen theme, with all white and silver creating a winter wonderland. On-trend wedding dresses this season feature regal silver embroidery or delicate, starry spangles; with silver and white accents everywhere, you can transform your wedding into an ice palace banquet.

Holiday Idea #4: Naturally Green

It you’re looking for a more natural style, look no further than the nearest woods. The holidays’ natural greenery gives your wedding a rustic, old-fashioned feel. Choose different varieties of evergreens, like pine, fir, and spruce to give a sense of texture and slight variations in color. Add pine cones and acorns to complete the look, or consider some holly; its bright berries are a bright and unmistakable sign of winter.

 

 

 

It’s a Nice Day for a [Winter] White Wedding

We’re still sweating in North Carolina, but planning for this year’s winter weddings is already well under way. What can we expect to see the winter of 2015-2016? Read on to learn about this year’s trends.How to plan for your winter wedding in the summer

  1. Brides can show a little skin. On the runways this season, dresses featured plunging necklines, bare backs, and cutouts. It should go without saying that in a wedding, a little skin can go a long way, so if you dare to go bare, less is more. For instance, choose a deep neckline or a bare back, but never both. After all, you’re pledging you love to your betrothed, not going out to a club!
  2. Or, brides can cover up. Many designers showcased outerwear for winter weddings, with motorcycle jackets, dusters, swing coats, capes and sweaters all making appearances. The fabrics are lush: wool, suede, mohair, and fur (real or faux, white or brown). For a more traditional winter wedding look, try long sleeves; their demureness pairs well with a bare back, as described above.
  3. Try going metallic. Shine up the place with traditional silver and gold, or opt for surprising metallic blues, pinks, and champagnes. Metallics showed up on the runway as blingy accents as well as muted gown colors.
  4. Brighten up with some color. A monochromatic white motif can lack sparkle, so adding a dash of color can brighten up the whole event. Color can appear in a sash, a bouquet, or accessories. Keep things cool in blue, or warm things up with colors like red or yellow.
  5. Go Boho. Bohemian chic is still in style, and it can inform the tenor of the whole wedding. For dresses, look for floral embellishments, vintage styling, and a loosely-put-together feel. Flowers and accessories can follow suit, with a hand-made look that feels warm and welcoming to guests.

How to Dress Your Bridesmaids for a Winter Wedding

Winter weddings can be magical, but they do come with some special challenges. One of those is how to dress your bridesmaids so they stay warm but also look elegant and current.

When it comes to choosing dresses for the cooler months, there are a couple of basic tips to follow. First, it’s always a good idea to choose full-length gowns for your ladies; you may be worried about the hems getting wet or dirty, but if it’s cold, the more material the better! Your bridesmaids will certainly thank you for not exposing their bare legs to the elements.

It’s also best to pair full-length dresses with a closed-toe shoe rather than a sandal to avoid your bridesmaids getting cold, wet feet during any outdoor photos or travel to and from the venue. If they’re calling for snow or ice on your big day or if it’s a common occurrence where you live, consider putting your bridesmaids in low heels or flats. With a long dress, the shoes won’t be that noticeable anyway.

When choosing the material for your bridesmaids’ gowns, opt for heavier fabrics that can keep the chill away and look stylish in the winter season. Classic satin dresses are a good choice, but other options include duchess satin (stiffer than traditional satin with matte finish), dupioni silk, organza, and taffeta. If your heart is set on lace, choose a heavier fabric with a lace overlay.

The style of dresses is important, and in winter, a sleeve for your bridesmaids’ dresses is the best option. Sleeve lengths can vary from cap sleeves, short, ¾ length, or full. If you must go with sleeveless dresses, consider opera-length gloves for your attendants to keep them warm and still look elegant.

Color-wise, deeper hues such as rich burgundy, plum, navy blue, or emerald green look stunning for winter. A bright red for holiday or Valentine’s Day weddings can also look festive. Metallics such as silver, gold, or copper are becoming popular choices for winter weddings too, or opt for neutral shades like dove gray, taupe, or champagne.

Adding accessories to your bridesmaids’ look can make them special and keep them warm at the same time. A wrap in a matching or complementary shade of the dress is an easy option, or white faux fur caplets can look really lovely for winter. Other options are jeweled cardigans or tights under the dress.

With just a few considerations, your bridesmaids can look chic and stay warm for your winter wedding day.

Tips for Planning a Winter Wedding

For some brides, winter can be the perfect season to hold a wedding. Especially atplanning a winter weddinglocations where there’s a chance of a snowy white background, winter weddings can be quite magical.

One big benefit to holding a winter wedding is more availability at the location of your choice, and venues, caterers, florists, etc., are often less expensive for wintertime weddings. So winter weddings can not only be romantic and magical, but also budget-friendly!

Here are some tips to consider when planning a winter wedding:

The dress

Sleeves on wedding dresses are a big trend, thanks to Princess Kate, and perfectly suited to a winter wedding. Fabrics that are thicker such as satin are great this time of year—or a sheer, flowy dress can also work well, adding an ethereal feel. One key accessory to add to your winter bridal look is some sort of top layer, such as a chic white faux-fur stole or a velvet cape to keep warm when outdoors. You may also want to consider winter shawls or wraps for your bridesmaids.

The location

For a smaller wedding, an inn with a large fireplace can be a perfect spot for a winter wedding. For larger affairs, consider a historic mansion or private club that will still have intimate warmth.  Be sure to ask what seasonal decorations the site will already have – you may be able to save money as many sites are already heavily decorated. One tip to keep in mind: offer a coat check so guests don’t have to worry about their bulky or even wet coats during the reception—in addition, this will keep coats draped over chairs out of your wedding photos!

The décor                                                                             

Candlelight is a must for a winter wedding. Add warmth and light with different lanterns, votives, and candles in different shapes and sizes. Popular winter colors to incorporate include frosted—light blue hues and whites, metallics such as antique gold, pewter, silver, or copper, or deep jewel tunes such as burgundy or plum. White linens with all-white floral arrangements add to a snowy winter theme, or chose a velvet runner in one of the colors mentioned above. White string lights hung from the ceiling and ice sculptures can also create a winter feel.

The menu

You can still offer your favorite foods, but consider adding some winter touches like a squash dish or a warm pumpkin soup. Eggnog, spiced wine, cider, or hot chocolate are other special touches you can offer your guests that add to the warmth of the event. For your wedding cake, opt for an all-white cake decorated with snowflakes, silver embellishments, or other white sugar touches. A small snow globe can make a lovely cake topper.

Summer weddings may get all the attention, but winter weddings can offer a unique and romantic way to celebrate the joining of two people in matrimony.

 

Congratulations, You’re Engaged! Now What?

He popped the big question; you said yes. Now what?

A new engagement is a special time in a couple’s life, and it also marks the beginning ofwhat to do now that you're engaged what can be a whirlwind of wedding planning.

Even though most brides are eager to jump right in and start shopping for a dress, a venue, and calling the florist, there are a few other practical things for you to do after you become engaged and before getting into the throes of wedding planning.

  • Share your news. Now with social media, it’s so easy to type a quick message and announce to everyone at once that you are engaged. But before hitting that send button, be sure to call your parents and other close relatives and friends before announcing it via email, Twitter, and/or Facebook. No one wants to be the last to know your big news, so personally call the special people in your life to share your news.
  • Get your ring sized. Even if your fiancé picked out the perfect ring, chances are it doesn’t fit perfectly. Take it to a jeweler ASAP to have it properly sized for your finger. The process may take just a few hours or a few days.
  • Get your ring insured. If the worst happens and your ring gets lost or damaged, you can at least get your money back to purchase a new one with insurance. If you already have home owner’s or renter’s insurance, call your agent to add the ring to your policy. You will probably need an appraisal before you can add the ring to an existing policy, so make sure you know what paperwork is required, and get this from the jeweler that sold your fiancé the ring.
  • Set a date. Even if it’s not the exact date you want to hold your wedding, at least sit down together and look at your calendars to determine a time frame of when you’d like to have your wedding. For example, you might prefer a summer wedding but got engaged in May, so you could target the following summer—or if you got engaged over the holidays, you might decide to have a fall wedding. This way, when people ask, “When is the wedding?” you can at least give them a time frame if not a definite date yet.
  • Get a wedding planner. No, it’s not time to hire an actual wedding coordinator just yet (if that is what you choose), but at least get a Smartphone app, a datebook, or calendar to help you keep a timeline of major wedding-related tasks.
  • Ask your parents for their guest lists. The number of guests will determine what kind of wedding you have and where, so go ahead and ask your parents and your fiancé’s parents to give you their guest lists. At this point, it can just be names of the “must invite” people, then add your own friends and co-workers so you can get a ballpark figure of the number of guests.
  • Enjoy the moment. Getting engaged is a huge milestone in your relationship, so be sure that you and your fiancé spend some quality time together just enjoying the moment before you delve into the craziness of wedding planning. Once wedding planning and parties get underway, there won’t be as many opportunities for time just for the two of you, so spend some special time together now.

Congratulations!

Austin Scarlett Bridal Trunk Show

Charlotte residents can see the newest bridal designs from renowned bridal designer Austin Scarlett at a trunk show at Nitsa’s Charlotte location on Sept. 26-27.

Austin Scarlett is a New York designer whose work spans the realms of fashion, theatre, and pop culture. Recognized for his personally glamorous style almost as much as the breathtaking couture fashions he creates, the world of Austin Scarlett is an enchanted combination of grace and romance.

In the Fall of 2012, Austin launched his first complete gown collection under his own label, debuting his signature line at Neiman Marcus’ Flagship store in Dallas, Texas. His collection walked the runway that fall at his inaugural fashion show at New York’s historic Park Avenue Armory. Scarlett says, “A wedding dress is the expression of a woman’s unique beauty at her most treasured moment. I am overjoyed at last to be able to fulfill the dreams of all my beautiful brides!”

Austin Scarlett Bridal Gown

Image from AustinScarlett.com

Austin uses exquisite fabrics including supple satins, sculptural silk failles and mikados, crisp taffetas, flowing chiffons, floating organzas, and ethereal tulle illusions in his bridal designs. The sewing of Austin’s dresses begins only once every detail has been fine-tuned. Every gown is made to order, one by one. Strapless dresses each include a built in corset or bustier, where each and every curve of the wearer’s figure is molded to create a flattering, streamlined contour and feeling of embracing support that can only be achieved through a meticulously structured foundation.

Upon its foundation, the dress is arranged and stitched using a combination of techniques such as French seams, hand stitched drapings, applique, and steam molding.

Inside and out, Austin’s designs display the beauty and technical perfection that is the art of couture.

Five Ideas for the Modern Mother of the Bride

The mother of the bride no longer means frumpy dresses or modest suits. Today’s modern moms want to look up-to-date and elegant, and many retailers and high-fashion designers are now catering to the mother of the bride.

Here are five ideas for mothers of the bride to keep in mind when selecting their outfits for their daughter’s big day:

Consider the location and style of wedding

Is the bride getting married in a traditional church, a hotel, or outdoors? Will it be a formal or more casual affair? Also, think about the time of year—will it be hot or cold? A knee-length, sleeveless dress with a little jacket for a church wedding is appropriate, while it would be fine to wear sleeveless for an outdoor wedding in the spring or summer or a full-length gown for a more formal event.

Consider your color scheme

Avoid the obvious white or ivory, which is reserved for the bride. Choose a color that complements the wedding theme and wedding party attire but without matching the bridesmaids. You may also want to check to see what the mother of the groom will be wearing to avoid any clashes or worse, showing up in the same dress! Mother of the Bride Wedding Fashion

Focus on fit

Whatever style and color you choose, fit and comfort are the most important. You don’t want to feel uncomfortable in a shorter dress that rides up or in something that veers too far from your usual style. If you don’t normally wear sky-high heels, avoid them at all costs!

Look for length

Be sure to take the length of the dress into consideration.The style that flatters most figures sits mid-calf, unless you are petite, then a knee-length dress would be a good alternative.

Have fun with accessories

Think about jewelry, shoes, and handbags—all things that can help make your outfit unique. Use these as statement pieces. Add a pop of color with an accessory, especially if you choose a neutral or black dress.

Mark your calendars for two upcoming trunk shows in September at both Nitsa’s locations featuring Marisa Baratelli for mother of the bride and mother of the groom. Join us at our Charlotte location on Sept. 18-22 or at our Winston-Salem location on Sept. 24-27 to see the latest styles in Marisa Baratelli’s trademark luxurious Thai silk.

Working With a Wedding Planner

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Planning a wedding involves many moving parts. Not only are there decisions to make about the reception, there are also many to make about the ceremony: Who would’ve thought that someone actually needs to plan who will walk down the aisle, in what order, or to advise your bridesmaids on the proper way to hold a bouquet? While you can tackle some of these to-dos yourself, there are many that would be made easier with the help of a wedding planner. 

One of the best things about hiring a planner/coordinator is that this is their area of expertise. They know the ins and outs of the industry better than anyone else and are able to offer you insight and perspective that you would otherwise not have access to. From setting a timeline for the overall day, to handling the minutia of paperwork and correspondence with vendors, to helping you weigh the pros and cons of a particularly tough decision, a planner keeps you together, both emotionally and logistically.

Wedding planners and designers are also great advisors. They’ll be able to recommend the best vendors—overall or for your price range—and sometimes can even get you deals on vendors. They’re also excellent at advising you on your budget; big or small, they’ll show you how much to spend where and make sure that you don’t overspend in an area that isn’t the most important to you (i.e., if you don’t love flowers then they shouldn’t make up a large percentage of your budget). If there’s a question of etiquette, look no further than your planner for the perfect advice.

All these pluses aside, planners and coordinators are also buffers, resolving conflicts with vendors or family in your name and with ease. They’re also often your personal buffer on the wedding day, working as the point of contact for crises so you’re spared the nitty-gritty details. The extra price of a planner is a small one to pay for a perfectly-planned (and executed) wedding day.

 

 

Wedding Hair – The Right “Do” For You

On your wedding day, you gotta “do” what’s right for you. Don’t let your hair fall to the hair styles for your wedding dayplanning wayside. Check out these styles to ensure that your locks are ready for love.

Traditional: The classic bride will love the simple elegance of a chignon. The chignon is a low bun pinned at the nape of the neck. Variations of the chignon can feature braids, curls, and decorative barrettes. Another traditional bridal “do” is the french twist.  This style exudes class with its simple twist and slight pouf.

Romantic: A romantic bride loves wisps and curls. The best way to get fairytale elegance is to leave your hair down or half up, half down and let your locks fall where they may. Big curls are key to this enchanting style as are delicately woven-in flowers.  A loose braid can add a touch of romance, while a messy bun or updo is another option for whimsical charm.

Modern: The modern bride will want less curl and more sleek. Wearing hair straight and down with no frills will draw attention to the sure-to-be-trendy dress. A pixie cut is another modern trend that allows the bride to have fun with decorative pins or a unique headband. The sock bun is likely the most popular modern trend. This simple high bun is graceful and chic, perfect for the modern bride.

Indie: For the trendy and relaxed indie bride, a simple flower crown or tulle wrap offers beauty and sophistication with a bit of nonchalance. Wear it atop a quaint bun or let your hair fall naturally. Not too fancy and definitely not gaudy, the fishtail braid is a perfect “do” for the more casual bride. Loose and beautiful, this braid can be adorned with flowers or left to stand alone. Simply going au naturel and leaving your hair up to nature rather than product is another way indie brides can be comfortable and show their unique styles.