Nothing is as special as seeing your daughter walk down the aisle on her wedding day. As the mother of the bride, there are certain duties you are traditionally responsible for
handling to ensure that your daughter has a special day.
Here is a list of some of the traditional duties that the mother of the bride is responsible for:
- Wedding dress shopping support. Traditionally, mothers accompany their daughters on their hunt for the perfect wedding gown. This can be a special and memorable time for mother and daughter, and mom can help provide honest feedback as her daughter tries on different dresses.
- Help with the guest list. The mother of the bride should compile and submit names and addresses of family and friends that need to be included on the master guest list. She should also talk to the groom’s family about whom they want to include on the guest list and manage the difficult task of limiting the number of guests if necessary.
- Researching traditions or finding family heirlooms. Typically, it falls on the mother of the bride to make sure that certain religious or cultural traditions their family follows are incorporated into the wedding. Mom also will help the bride find her “something old” or “something borrowed” for the big day—for example, mom might share a piece of jewelry she wore on her wedding day.
- Be the hostess. From the minute guests begin arriving in town until the end of the reception, the mother of the bride is the official hostess and in charge of making every guest feel welcome. She should make sure she meets and greets every guest throughout the event.
- Coordinating outfit choices with the groom’s mother. Etiquette dictates that the mother of the bride follows her daughter’s lead as to the color and formality of the dress she chooses for the wedding. Once she has chosen a dress, she needs to call the groom’s mother to describe the dress, or she could email a photo so that the groom’s mother can then select her dress so it will be in sync.
- Wedding day dressing assistance. Helping the bride into her dress and placing her veil is one of the most time-honored traditions a mother of a bride can follow. (And it makes for memorable photos!)
- Second dance. After the bride and groom have their first dance, then it’s time for mom and dad to take to the dance floor.
These are just a few of the traditional duties a mother of the bride expects to do, but many moms may want to take a more active role in wedding planning with their daughters. Or some mothers may prefer to take more of a back seat. No matter which category you fall into, be sure to stop and savor this special time with your daughter.